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Former GNTM Contestant Elena Carrière Offers Surprising Dating Tip

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Elena Carrière, a former contestant on Germany's Next Topmodel, is a model and influencer. She shared how she found success in dating in a video. Photo: Getty Images

July 11, 2025, 1:26 pm | Read time: 5 minutes

Elena Carrière recently shared a controversial dating tip on her Instagram account. In a video, the former Germany’s Next Top Model contestant discusses a rule she has successfully followed—she has been in a relationship since the end of 2022. STYLEBOOK reveals what this unusual approach is all about.

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In 2016, Elena Carrière navigated the “Germany’s Next Topmodel” obstacle course with flying colors! She emerged as the runner-up. Her open and sometimes cheeky manner likely left a lasting impression on many viewers. On the social media platform Instagram, she continues to share her opinions on socially relevant topics such as mental health and self-care. Recently, the 28-year-old released a video where she shared her personal dating tip–which surprisingly includes abstinence.

Elena Carrière’s Dating Tip to Uncover “Boyfriend Material”

The 28-year-old Elena Carrière caused a stir with an Instagram reel. And it’s not because of her styling or outfit, but because of what she said. She believes that when dating, it’s a good idea to wait a full six weeks before sleeping together. “Waiting for sex is the best man filter ever,” Carrière explains. The influencer elaborates: “If he can’t wait, he’s not boyfriend material.”

“Boyfriend Material” is a term from the online world. It refers to men who are considered responsible, sensitive, and emotional–who would perform well in relationships. The counterpart is the so-called “Fuckboy,” a man who primarily seeks to fulfill his own sexual desires, often at the expense of his dating partner’s feelings.

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Six Weeks of Abstinence at the Start of Dating

The six-week rule is supposed to protect against such people. On one hand, after this time, there would already be an emotional connection, making sex “more beautiful, relaxed, and communicative.” On the other hand, one wouldn’t be influenced by hormones that women often equate with positive emotions or a feeling of being in love.

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Carrière explains that “her” hormones during sex directly connect with “his.” “That means they make me blind,” says Carrière. If you sleep with someone early, it would be physically and emotionally difficult to detach from them. “If you haven’t had sex yet, you can just say: Bye baby,” Elena Carrière is convinced.

Cuddle Hormones During Sex–Indeed

Indeed, various hormones are released during intercourse that make one feel more alive. In both men and women, the oxytocin level rises during sexual arousal, especially when orgasm occurs, as a study from 2021 shows. Another study confirms that oxytocin is the central hormone in emotional bonds. That means: more good sex, more oxytocin, more feelings.

Additionally, sex releases the happiness hormone dopamine, relaxing serotonin, endorphins–our body’s own opiates–and many other neurotransmitters and hormones. Intercourse offers a true hormone cocktail!

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Sex Alone Does Not Make Us Fall in Love

Sexual psychologist Christoph Joseph Ahlers called this phenomenon a “state of trusting bliss” in a 2017 “Spiegel” interview, which does not guarantee a long-term emotional bond. So, the idea that sex makes us blind, as Carrière claims, is not entirely true. Hormones do influence our well-being, but they do not overshadow our actual needs. Those who do not want to bond would not do so through sex.

In the interview, the author and couples therapist addresses another important factor. When asked if hormones influence our emotional bond, he replies: “What matters is not the action performed, but the subjective meaning sex has for us.” This brings a whole new perspective to Elena Carrière’s dating tip. For her, sex plays a subordinate role. She values the four other “pillars” she names in the video more. She refers to the spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and social levels. These should be “checked” first to plan a long-term relationship. But as Christoph Joseph Ahlers says, the meaning of sex is quite individual.

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Elena Carrière’s Tip Inspires, But Not More

The model emphasizes in the video that it is her own opinion. That means she does not generalize this subordination of physical pleasure. Nevertheless, her followers seem enthusiastic about the idea. “I should have heard this sooner,” “Makes so much sense, thank you,” and “Exciting” are just a few of the positive comments. Others say they are too impatient for the six-week wait, while others say six weeks is not long enough–at least four months should pass before the first sex.

The comment section highlights what can be seen as the moral of the dating tip: It works for some, others feel inspired and want to try it out, and still others know it’s not for them. Because in dating, not only is each person unique, but so is each couple’s dynamic. It’s good to know oneself. However, one should also feel into the process to see what fits well in the dynamic. Does it feel right and good to follow the rule of sexual abstinence together? Or do both prefer to get to it quickly and explore each other sexually as soon as possible? Each person must decide for themselves. There is no one right way to achieve a fulfilling, long-term partnership; there are as many ways as there are couples.

This article is a machine translation of the original German version of STYLEBOOK and has been reviewed for accuracy and quality by a native speaker. For feedback, please contact us at info@stylebook.de.

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